5 Reasons To Not Pursue Love/Sex At Work

[Katy Mills]

5 Reasons To Not Pursue Love/Sex At Work
 

We have all heard horror stories about pursuing the opposite sex at work, yet for some reason people still do it and I get plenty of letters asking how to do it. Let’s just for old time sake have a refresher about why you should not shit where you eat.
 
1. A productive work environment is a friendly work environment – If you haven’t had much luck in your traditional hunting grounds, you could easily misread signals of the opposite sex at work. If you are frustrated in the least bit, the smallest of gestures could come off as advances and before you know it, you can quickly get find yourself in a few compromising situations.
 
2. Sexual Harassment – Well we might as well throw in the obvious here. Bantering can take on many forms and without proper tonality, it can be taken the wrong way. To a power hungry woman or a mousey insecure girl, this type of behavior can be a killer for your career. Someone looking for a quick way to bypass some rungs on a ladder might see this as an easy ticket and have you washing dishes in no time.
 
3. Dealing with the inevitable break-ups – I know what a mess my regular breaks ups are. Why anyone would want to deal with that at work is insane. Watching over my back for thrown staplers and putting out rumor fires is not my idea of a hard day at the office. The workplace can be competitive enough in today’s minimal job market without the office dividing and taking sides. You need people to watch your back not stick a blade into it.
 
4.  Fodder for water cooler gossip – Becoming the topic of conversation around the office can quickly help build a reputation for you. If it’s more office trim you are looking for this will give you plenty clout. If it’s that promotion you been waiting for, this can blow up in your face.
 
5. Impossible to get work done – If you have warmed up to the idea of pursuing women at work, now your work environment has become your hunting ground and with that your mentality at work will change. Your mind will be conflicted on what to pursue. Flirt or work, flirt or work. If you are in a flirting and attracting mindset it will be hard to concentrate on problem solving. Your brain is not designed to multitask that way. You will spread yourself thin and something will be done half assed.
 
Even though I have laid out 5 reasons why engaging with the opposite sex at work is a bad idea, many of you will still do it anyway and without proper guidance you will find yourself in a awful situation. So in the next article, let’s put together a few rules to do it without causing too much damage.